Are You In Charge Or Just Controlling

Early in my leadership journey, I thought being “in charge” meant having all the answers. I thought if someone came to me with a problem, I needed to fix it. If we hit a roadblock, I had to blaze the trail. If the room got quiet, I had to speak. And don’t get me wrong—there’s value in decisiveness, experience, and confidence. But here’s what I’ve learned:
The best leaders don’t have all the answers - they ask the best questions.
As my company grew, I started hiring people who were smarter than me - people who excelled in their lane. And at first, I’ll admit—it felt weird. I was used to being the guy with the plan, the inventor, the idea machine. But some incredible things happened when I got out of the way and let people bring their brilliance to the table:
We got better.
Faster.
More creative.
More collaborative.
More resilient.
All because I wasn’t trying to be the genius—I was just trying to create a place where genius could thrive.
Think about it like this: not every leader needs to be the pilot. Sometimes, you’re just the one in the tower, making sure no one crashes into each other and the runway’s clear for takeoff. You clear space, set the tone, and protect the culture. Most of all, you make it safe for your people to speak up, try, fail, and try again. That’s leadership. It’s not about being the smartest voice in the room; it’s about making sure the smartest voices feel heard.
Pride says, “I’ve got this.” Wisdom says, “Let’s figure this out together.” Of course, there will be moments when you do have the answer and it's right to share it. And in those moments, lead - guide the team. But if you’re clinging to control, choking innovation, or talking more than you’re listening, you’re not leading. You’re managing a narrative. And you’re probably leaving a lot of better ideas on the table. Because leadership isn’t about being right—it’s about being effective.
You don’t need to be the genius in the room. You need to be the builder of the room. Create the space. Set the tone. Invite the input. That’s where the best answers rise—and that’s what real leadership looks like.
Joe Altieri is the Inventor and CEO of FlexScreen. His product – the world’s first and only flexible window screen - was featured on ABC’s hit show, Shark Tank™, where he hooked a deal with the proclaimed “Queen of QVC,” Lori Greiner.


BY JOE ALTIERI
Joe Altieri is a third-generation entrepreneur, inventor, speaker, podcast host, and former CEO of FlexScreen.
During his 20+ years in the window industry, Joe recognized the inherent problems with old-style aluminum window screens and dealt personally with constant customer frustrations. Always an outside-the-box thinker, he knew there had to be a better way, so he set up shop in his garage and got to work. After years of trial and error, FlexScreen, the world's first and only flexible window screen, was born.
Since its introduction into the marketplace, FlexScreen gained international attention and earned multiple industry awards. Most notably, FlexScreen was catapulted to the forefront when Joe appeared on ABC's hit show, Shark Tank, in January 2020. Three of the five Sharks battled for a piece of FlexScreen with Lori Greiner, the Queen of QVC, ultimately winning the deal. Since that first appearance, Joe has appeared on Shark Tank two more times in update segments featuring the meteoric rise of FlexScreen in the window industry, with Lori Greiner stating: "I actually think that FlexScreen may wind up to be one of the best and most successful products in Shark Tank history."
In February 2025, FlexScreen was acquired by RiteScreen - the largest independent manufacturer of window screens in America. What started as an idea in Joe's garage has become a true American Dream success story.
Joe is a firm believer in giving back, and he is generous with his resources and his time. He has been honored and recognized as one of Pittsburgh's Volunteers of the Year. Joe lives in Pittsburgh with his wife, Alisha. They have four children, six grandchildren (and counting!), and two very pampered Cane Corsos.
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